Here’s a previously published article that I wrote a few years ago.
By Scott Shaw
I believe that we live in a very interesting time in that anyone can become a celebrity overnight. Say or do something on the internet and if people find it interesting it can spread worldwide. A truth or a lie it does not even matter, simply by saying it and/or doing it, your words and your actions are out there and there are those who will believe every word that you have spoken. Thus, the world is no longer based upon fact, it is simply based upon what someone has said.
I think back to a friend of mine I met a few years ago. She was a young girl working as a barista at Starbucks. All was well with her world. She had met a guy, had fallen in love, and she was beaming that she was in a relationship. A few months go by and her boyfriend breaks up with her. Then, the guy begins to tell the personal story of their relationship online; attempting to make himself look more manly and her look bad. He begins to spread lies about her on Facebook and Tumbr. First, she is destroyed… A beautiful young girl who had been shunned by her boyfriend. She would call me up trying to find solace. I would help her as best as I could. Then, the lies began to be believed by others who read them. She told me how she would get messages from people she never even met reinforcing what her ex had said and they were condemning her. This, even though every word he wrote about her was from his own personal perspective and/or was a flat out lie.
The outcome… First she got fired from Starbucks because she came to working hurting from what her ex and his internet cronies had said about her. Then, she took her own life.
I believe that most of us have enough positive people in our life who would help us and support us if and when people hurt us and/or if somebody began to tell lies about us on the internet. But, then there are those who do not. Sadly, this girl was one of them.
Have you had people tell lies about you on their internet? I have.
I certainly understand that my position is a bit different than many. For better or for worse I have, through many-many years of hard work, accomplished a few small things in life. From this, some people have come to love me, while other have come to hate me. Why? That is all based upon their own personal psychology.
The thing that I have realized is that those who are the most vocal on the internet are those who are the most insecure and negative in life. A secure person is whole onto themselves and thus they do not need speak about anyone. They do not need to write nonsense on the internet. Love a person or hate a person it does not matter as they are whole onto themselves—they are doing what they are doing, pursuing what they are pursuing, and that is the focus of their life. Their life is not based upon other people.
The fact is, a secure person is busy pursuing their own dreams and they do not need to reference others in their quest to achieve them. It is, however, the insecure person and/or those who are not something onto themselves that must continually reference others. They must talk about others. They must write about others. They must make comments about others. They must try to hurt others in the eyes of other people. They do this because they are not something. They are not whole onto themselves. For ultimately what is the purpose of saying negative things about anyone? What does it prove? How does it make you any more or any better?
If I think back to the friend I lost, there she was this young, in love girl, damned by someone who obviously did not deserve someone so caring as her. Yet, what he did set an entire course of destiny and karma into motion because he was not adult enough to simply move way from a relationship that he no longer chose to be in. And, look at what occurred. Look at what were the consequences of his actions.
I believe we each have heard stories about similar situations on the internet. From that, I believe that each of us truly needs to take a look at who and what we are and how we behave on the internet.
Do you attack people on the internet, hiding behind a screen name or even using your own name? Do you spread your particular side of a story on the internet about a person or a thing? If so, why? Why are you not enough to care more about another person than yourself? Do you believe that you are so special that you do not need to care about other people first?
The ultimate truth of life is we are only as good as the words we have spoken. We are only as good as the deeds we have performed.
Life is based upon what you have done. What have you done? Have you cared more about yourself and your feelings than you cared about others? Have you cared more about what you have wanted than what others have wanted? And, mostly, what have you done? For what you do is a choice and what you do sets your everything into motion. If all you think about is you, if all you think about is how you feel, if all you think about is how others see you and think about you then your life is lost. You will never be what you hoped you would become because you have hurt others. And, there is no justification for hurting others by your words or your deeds; especially if your words are not based in the truth. It is especially importation to note that this means not just your personal interpretation of truth but absolute truth.
In closing, it is far better to keep your words, your opinions, and your emotions to yourself—especially in this day and age where everything you write or say (on the internet) can have such wide spanning effects. If you hurt someone by your words, if you spread your personal opinions about someone, if you tell lies about someone, there can and will be consequence. If you set something in motion you are responsible for those consequences. Think about it.
Copyright © 2011